Me (you) in 3 words?

Yeah right. Right? 3 words + 3 quotes + me still figuring it out.

The irony.

This is something I have been thinking about for a while, and mostly because there are many times in life I am trying something that might not always feel like me. Trying things is the flavour of life, but I’m curious about what things I am taking along with me that I maybe should leave behind. Things that aren’t really elements to myself that make me feel like a hell yes in my own skin. Taking a note from Tibi’s founder, Amy Smilovic’s rule book ( she doesn’t know this but she’s my mentor right now. I’ve learned so much from her on how to run an authentic business..) on how one can use tools to help personally define who they are, what their identity feels and looks like and how they may want to feel in the world. A guide book or a north star to come to when doing anything from dressing in a way that feels like you vs. your clothing wearing you, or the way you move through life. To me this feels almost like your own personal soundtrack. If you include these elements, or ingredients into the recipe that is you , it can help you feel like you are more in your skin. And possibly save you money and become more of a responsible consumer. Because you’ve navigated and spent time being introspective about yourself and the path to finding out the answer to this really tricky question. I’m not sure (no, I KNOW) I am totally there yet even though I know I’ve spent a lot of time playing with different “hats” so to speak. Many different identities, details, colors, non colors, genres, etc. There have been and will be many times I will look back at a photo and wonder who that is in there dressed in that, or wearing that makeup or that hair style. I’m okay with it. You’ll never really know who you are unless you’re curious with yourself, try things you decide you don’t enjoy and then try things that feel so utterly and fully right that you add them to the ingredient book. Overloading on one and not balancing it out with the others can sometimes feel not right. I find that if I include elements from each “ingredient” word or phrase, I feel most myself. I think I finally understand this about myself. I’ve always felt a bit unsettled by the fact that I feel unsettled sticking to one thing. However recently, I’ve begun to appreciate that about myself. In some ways I envy those who only do one thing, only wear one color. How much easier they make things for themselves and what a way to perfect that skill or craft or whatever it is.
That’s not me and that’s okay. I’m a little bit everywhere but distinctly myself. Now, pinning that down to three words…that’s tough. I like this concept as a framework in how I view myself, as with most things, I like the idea of living loosely to this concept rather than a concrete, but I do think it’s really helpful in reminding yourself on the things that make you feel most like you.

Let’s work it (me) out.
To define my identity… in three words and three quotes. 3 words because there is something really balancing yet abundant with the number 3, and 3 quotes because this is where a flavour or essence can be described.
Not surprised the first quote that most resonates with me would be something that seems to completely contradict this whole exercise yet makes the most sense for me:

”To define is to limit”
- Oscar wilde
Queer? Unexpected? Ambiguous? Androgynous? Playful? Evolving? Androgynous feels good here, I never really like playing in the binary of anything. Along with feeling timeless I love adding in a pop of something unexpected, like my glass eye ring I haven’t taken off in 15 years, or my palm tattoos hiding under a suit sleeve. Or the fact that I don’t identify as femme at all yet some may think I present that way. I feel like this is my more playful side of things, because I think I can tend to present more seriously than I am.

Tilda really comes to mind here for me.